How to Prepare Your Goals to Become More Fully Yourself in the New Year
It’s that time of year and the “new year” is right around the corner. And we are reminded about setting goals to be our “best selves”. Preparing for the new year isn’t about becoming someone new- it’s about becoming more fully yourself. Consider these tips when setting new goals that are achievable and realistic.
Reflect Before You Reset
Reflecting helps you carry insights forward instead of repeating old patterns.
What worked well this past year?
What felt heavy, draining or misaligned?
Where did I grow emotionally and physically, even if it didn’t feel like success at the time?
Identify What You Want More Of- Not Just What You Want to Change
Instead of focusing on just what you want to fix, shift your attention to include what you want to experience more of.
More calm instead of less anxiety
More confidence instead of less self-doubt
More connection instead of less loneliness
Choose Goals That Support Your Nervous System
Sustainable goals create stability, not constant stress. Set goals that don’t overwhelm you.
Does this goal energize me or pressure me?
Is it aligned with who I am now, not who I was 10 years ago?
Can this goal be supported with rest, boundaries and flexibility?
Focus on Identity, Not Just Outcomes
When you focus on identity and values- confident, grounded, emotionally resilient- your habits naturally begin to align with that version of you.
Who do I want to become this year?
How do I want to feel in my daily life?
Break Goals Into Gentle, Measurable Steps
Momentum build when goals feel achievable. Focus on shifting habits not the total outcome.
Focus on one small habit instead of a complete lifestyle overhaul.
Weekly intentions instead of rigid daily routines
Progress tracking based on how you feel not just what you accomplish.
Leave Space for Change
The most powerful plans leave room for curiosity, self-compassion and growth.
You don’t need to have the whole year figured out. Be flexible and update your goals as you evolve.